How To Get Through Fighting In Marriage



Marriage is a partnership.  It may not be a 50/50 split but hopefully it is two people working together to grow a thriving family life.  One person may be the bread winner and the other takes center stage when it comes to raising the kids.  Or perhaps you both work and you both contribute to the running of the household.  So what happens when the Family, LLC has a breakdown?  When one of the CEO’s makes bad decisions or doesn’t hold up their end of the bargain.  How can you effectively get through choppy family waters together? 
 
While there are many ways in which breakdowns occur there is a consistent way of fixing the issue that will leave you both feeling better.   Please know that not all breakdowns are fixable but in many cases they are.  Of course there is communication– being able to listen and hear what your spouse is going through.  But one of the toughest parts is the act of forgiving.  Being able to forgive someone who has hurt your feelings or has made you feel unimportant.  The reason that forgiveness is tough is that there is a feeling of being let down by the person you count on the most.   Many times sadness and anger will follow the incident and these emotions work against wanting to fix the damage to your relationship.
 
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 Hopefully you can take the time you need to heal, try to get over the negative situation and by all means reach out to your support system so you have someone to talk to and lean on for guidance.  If the incident isn’t a deal breaker then in time you will move on and forgive the misdoing.  It takes a big person to admit and say sorry when they are wrong, it also takes a lot of a person to be able to forgive and move on. 
 
Live, Love, Learn and be Happy.

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Felix Kimanthi







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